A Partner to Grow Into: The Life of Couples with Age Difference
Studies show that husbands are on average three years older than their wives. Couples with age difference — which means that one of the partners is over ten years older than the other — often face judgement; and women who live with a younger man are judged more often.
Society has always been suspicious about relationships with age difference. People used to think that a woman who marries a man much older than her will become a widow early; and men who choose an older woman risk having no children. Now, in addition to these concerns there are also ethical ones: relationships where one of the partners is noticeably younger or is in a subordinate position may turn out to be too unequal.
Despite all these difficulties, some partners with age difference manage to build a comfortable relationship. Tatiana Korytina met some of the couples.
Documentary photographer, student at DocDocDoc photography school.
— Many couples with age differences whom I offered to take part in the project refused: some don’t like to be photographed, some don’t like the documentary format. There were also those who were shy to speak about their family — they frequently face judgement from the others, so don’t want to flaunt their relationship.
Most often these are the relatives of a younger partner who are against the marriage to someone older. They are worried that with time the husband or the wife will start having health issues; they are afraid that the couple will not have children or they won’t have time to raise them together. Also, many older partners divorced people who were the same age as them and later married someone younger, which is not often perceived well.
Talking to the people I photographed, I didn’t feel the generation gap between them. Mature people have friendships and relationships with those who share their values and interests. I have many friends of different ages and I don’t feel uncomfortable talking to them.